Hello Readers!!

Welcome to Never Giving Up, Never Giving In, a blog dedicated to ending the stigmatization of mental illness. My name is Ayla and I am a bookworm, (and proud book blogger!!), a soon-to-be graduate student, a pug lover, and a mental health ambassador. I love reading, writing, playing guitar, and –of course–blogging!

This blog began as a platform through which I could share my own story of mental illness recovery in order to raise awareness about mental health. Since it’s inception in 2014, Fighting To Find Myself has expanded to become a thriving community of wonderful stigma fighters, mental health warriors, and bookworms alike!

I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for stopping by my blog and I hope you’ll stick around! I would like to encourage you to follow me in order to stay up to date with my latest posts and join in the discussion about mental health, books, and the life and times of a soon-to-be grad student!

If you are interested, you can contact me via email at aworldwithoutstigma@gmail.com if you have any questions or if you need additional support!

Happy reading!!



21 thoughts on “About

  1. youngandtwenty says:

    I love the honesty of your blog. I started mine to help myself as well as others in similar situations and I can’t believe how much it’s helped me. I hope you find the same sense of comfort. Keep up the great blogging!

  2. relaxdamit says:

    Never giving up is a great Title. As an individual I have been dealing with Mental illness my entire life though I was diagnosed about 10 years ago. My son has similar challenges that I have as well as Ausbergers Syndrome. Today I just found out from a friends parent that my daughter is cutting herself. I loved reading things from your perspective. I was hoping that my daughter would be spared any form of mental illness but it is a new challenge our family will rise to.

    • relaxdamit says:

      Thanks for the advice. When I say I just found out, I mean it was in the last hour. She is still in school for the day. So when I pick her up this afternoon I can’t even say anything until my wife and I get a chance to talk about it.

      • Aylalala_xo says:

        okay, in that case, if I was in your daughter’s position, I would want you to be calm. The one thing my parents often do when they are upset is just yell which usually only makes it worse.
        I can only imagine how terrified you are, but remember that self-harm is usually not a suicidal behavior; it is a coping mechanism. Try to address it as such.
        Also keep in mind that I am a 20 year old with absolutely no parenting experience so I am saying this will absolutely no idea how to approach this from a parental level. But as a general rule staying calm is probably going to be better. You don’t want her to get defensive and potentially end up hurting herself again.

      • relaxdamit says:

        Thank you for the advice. Yelling is something we try to avoid in this house. With my Son and I both being Bipolar there is enough volatility to go around as it is.
        As a parent who struggles with mental illness myself I understand that I don’t know what she is going through and I will never pretend that I do. I hate it when people think they get it. That said i do know what it feels like to struggle so I can be empathetic.

    • Stacy Lee Flury says:

      My daughter also self-harmed as a coping mechanism. Remember, that self-harm is a symptom, not the root of the problem. What helped my daughter immensely is that I allowed her to write with marker (even permanent) any words or feelings anywhere on her body INSTEAD of cutting. I also encouraged her to write rap songs or write in another type of genre of music how she was feeling. I took it a step further and asked her (with my camera) to take pics of herself and use a photoshop site like picmonkey to edit the picture however she wanted. I didn’t care how dark it was or deep it was. The idea was to use those feelings she was having and make them creative. The last thing I did was paint her room with black chalkboard paint. She could use chalk and write out how she was feeling. All of these incorporated with counseling, she is not self-harm free for over a year and doesn’t want to go back to it (her words). She realized that she can expressed her hurt, anger, pain in other ways without putting herself physically in jeopardy. I hope this helps. I really love the honesty of this site and I pray that Ayla you will come to a point of healing in your life through this blog and with God’s help.

  3. Stacy Lee Flury says:

    Well, each day is a day of victory and something you should be proud of. Don’t worry if you slip once in a while. It happens. The idea is to keep moving forward, motivating yourself and not trying to make others happy. Because in the end, you are the one that lives your life and need to live it abundantly. Same goes with your eating. Don’t punish yourself because you fail. It happens. Instead of trying to make all these plans of how you are going to eat, just take it one day at a time. Matthew 6:34 says this – “So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. So live each hour of the day and don’t worry about the next day. That is too much pressure on yourself and you shall surely fail. And give yourself kudos for what you have accomplished. Focus on the positive not the negative. It’s like writing in a journal, every negative thing you write, write 2 positive things. It doesn’t matter if you struggled for days or years. Only you can take the will within you and change it around. But do it slowly and reasonably. I’m already proud of you for the 2 days. 😀

  4. Amy says:

    I love your attitude of never giving up, that is what it takes and how I was able to recover from my ten year struggle with bulimia. That was almost 27 years ago. You can do it too! Thank you for being brave enough to share your story.

  5. Courage Coaching says:

    Very inspiring and wishing you all the luck in the world to beat this difficult illness. It is so important to share our experiences with others and to make something good out of something as difficult as mental illness.

    • Discoverecovery says:

      Thank you! I’ve made a lot of huge strides in 2016 so far and I’m tackling things that I never thought I would be able to overcome! 2016 could be my year for reclaiming my happiness and mental health 🙂 Thank you for your kind words of support!

    • Discoverecovery says:

      Thank you so much!! It really means a lot to me that you’ve found support in my blog. I’m so sorry for the delay in response (I’ve been busy moving and then I was away for the holidays). I also find support in your blog and I absolutely love reading everything that you share! xx

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