So, you say she was “asking for it”? Maybe you should think twice.

It makes me really sad to know that there is probably someone in the world right now who is going through the same thing I went through, suffering in the same way that I have for years. I have suffered in silence for so long and I never really thought about the fact that there are so many other young women and girls who are going through the same sort of hell that I faced as a child. I feel so helpless. There is nothing I can do to stop them from their torment. There are so many sick people in the world; so many people who don’t care who they hurt along the way as long as they get what they want. It upsets me to know that somewhere in the world there is probably some helpless little girl being victimized. That girl will grow up thinking that it is somehow her own fault. She will likely feel ashamed. She might even develop mental health issues as a result. I don’t understand how someone could care so little about another human being that they would condemn them to a life of suffering like that. The memories never go away. The suffering never ends. I can’t even put into words how much I hate the cruelty of the world sometimes.

Some people would look at this post and say “life isn’t fair”, but the issue goes so far beyond a debate about whether or not it is fair (for the record it’s not). The fact of the matter is that nobody deserves to suffer as a result of someone else’s sick-minded manipulations. It makes me sick to even think about this. This isn’t a matter of whether or not it is fair or right for someone to suffer, it is a matter of thousands of young women being victimized and having their lives turned upside down. For someone to even suggest that “life isn’t fair” when talking about sexual abuse is absolutely disgusting. But the sad fact of the matter is that there are actually people out there who would use this cliché statement in passing when engaging in a discussion about abuse. It’s as if they don’t even care. Or maybe they feel so helpless to do anything that they cannot even bring themselves to stigmatize the perpetrators of the crime.

Victims of sexual assault have been stigmatized for years. Some people claim that they were asking for it while others claim that the victims are lying. What bothers me about this is that under no circumstances is a woman “asking for it” unless she explicitly consents to the actions. And what about all the children who are victims? Were they asking for it too? The majority of them probably didn’t even understand what was happening at the time!! Its so disgusting. So to all the people who think that way, WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?

So this is a call to action: rather that stigmatizing the victims, how about we stigmatize the people who are committing these crimes. It’s time to take action. I may not be able to save someone who is suffering right now, but I can certainly fight the stigmatization of victims.


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