You are your own source of stability

Hello readers!!¬†It’s been a while, but I’m back with a blog topic that I’ve been thinking about a lot lately.

In the last two months my life has changed in so many ways that it feels as though I have no stability whatsoever. Two months ago I never would have imagined that so much would change in such a short time frame, but the reality of life is that change is bound to happen and it is often abrupt and unexpected.

While I’ve been completely overwhelmed for the past few weeks, I have realized that my ability to cope with change and adapt to new situations has drastically improved over the course of the past year. The first time I had to move away from my parents house I had a mental breakdown and ended up moving back shortly thereafter. The second time I moved out (approximately 9 months ago) I experienced a lot of anxiety about the change but I was able to stick with it and I made it through the change. This time around things were a lot different. In fact, the only anxiety I experienced about the move was on the actual moving day while we were moving my furniture out. Aside from that small amount of anxiety (which¬†passed quickly), my transition this time around has been almost seamless; it felt almost natural to move somewhere new for this new phase of my life.

It’s strange to think that I’ve become accustomed to moving, but I think the reason it was so much easier this time is because I’ve become my own source of stability. While other things in life will change, I know that I will always have myself and I will be able to use my own strength to support myself.

Of course, that is not to say that I will not need the love and support of my friends and family. On the contrary, I have simply realized that I do not necessarily need to find stability in materialism when I can find stability in myself.

To be honest, I did not come to this realization on my own. In fact, it was my wonderful therapist who brought this concept of self-stability into my conscious awareness. She opened my eyes to the fact that I am capable of adapting to change and thriving in new situations because I can find stability in myself. I am my own stability. Realizing this has been such a freeing experience.

xo

Ayla